Thursday, June 14, 2012

Please Help...

I'm writing to ask for some help.  Life has been pretty hard lately.  I have been feeling pretty grim.  Acting grim too.  I've always been of a rather serious nature.  Pretty premeditated and careful.  But I used to know how to have a little fun.  These days I seem to have forgotten how.  It seems like too much work.  And then I find myself sitting in the middle of the fun thinking, "I'm not really having much fun.  What a waste of my time and energy.  I should have gone for the nap."

So I'm looking for some suggestions.  Easy fun.  Fun that requires a little bit of an investment.  Fun with others, fun all alone.  How does one do it?  And how does one stop comparing the fun to sleep?  Or falling asleep during the fun?

***In response to Queen B's comments:  That's just exactly it.  We don't have those children anymore, because they are all mostly grown now.  They will never gather to play in the back yard, or cuddle baby goats, or light saber fight.  The new children are different, and we are different.  Companionship for sure, but even that is different now.  I suppose I haven't liked that for a long, long time.  Which is probably part of the reason why I am so grim, and not so much fun.

6 comments:

C Dawn's bucket said...

When I want to laugh and just be silly I get a few friends together and we play Telestrations

http://www.amazon.com/Telestrations-Telephone-Game-Sketched-Out/dp/B001SN8GF4

We've played it at both Utah Trauma Mamma Retreats and it is a guaranteed laughter no matter how stressed out you are.

(Oh and we skip the point system on this game and just laugh as we go around at the end of each round at the progression of pics. This works best with 6-8 people but you can make some modifications for a smaller group)

QueenB said...

Fun schmun. It's all changed. This should probably be a personal email message. Pot luck dinners. Children playing in the yard. Husbands falling asleep on opposite ends of the couch, with opposite arms strung across, meeting in the middle. Laughing til we practically wet ourselves over the stupidest things. Hand work in baskets. Having a crap awful day after an evening of family prayer...then remembering to pray for a GOOD day when we next had prayer time, a lot of noise and a big mess....I think it is companionship. Good friends. Campfires with s'mores. Snoring husbands. Dishes and dishes of baked chicken, Crowns and the equivalent of belly belts(for expectant postmenopausal adoptive mothers)...fabric stores, sewing for my own enjoyment...long newsy emails, long tables filled with Thanksgiving food, Scrabble where I really whup your butt just once, a little boy in a swing, a little boy pushing a little girl into a pond, goats and baby goats, chickens, Star Wars Phantom Menace... Yeah, that was fun. Carpetball? Cup of tea? Walk to the dining hall? Those sound like fun. Life got too busy, too inward bound. Missing the fun too.

QueenB said...

Those are all the old memories with the children we had then. We need to have fun around the children we have now!

Kcaarin said...

It honestly sounds like you NEED the nap. Maybe after awhile the fun will come!

Brenda said...

tried to email you but ran into the old problem of it bouncing back. if you ever want to call me so we can talk/cry/rant/laugh together - that would be great.

kateraide said...

When things get stressful around our house, we like to look for opportunities to laugh ourselves sick. Mostly it involves watching a good stand-up comedy special. I know this post is old, but I somehow found my way here and this suggestion was brought to mind because we just recently watched a Jim Gaffigan special that had me nearly screaming. He doesn't get too blue (i.e. vulgar and otherwise excruciatingly obscene) but there were little bits that I couldn't really relate to, or else didn't find that humorous.